VIRGINITY, TRUE LOVE AND MARRIAGE
A man who is not patient to wait for you till marriage can break your heart before Marriage and even if he marries you he will never be faithful to you cause his desperate desire to taste it before time is a clear sign that he cannot control himself (even in marriage) or that he will abandon you (hate you) if you have no child for him… so he wants to be sure you are fruitful. Such type of men make Marriage a miserable journey or cage for women. Our world is a crazy world today and what is supposed to be of value in life is no more valued.
A lot of women get married because they cannot afford to loose their man or be laughed at by their friends/society for being unmarried. But its time women should stand up for their rights. You cannot continue to be a testing apple. Whoever values you should be able to wait for you till Marriage if Virginity is one of your values. Virginity is a choice. It is the true test of patience which only a few are brave enough to keep it. It is a gift. It is the best of gifts you can give to your future spouce even though some men today may not even value it (cause they may think the person is not experienced). Sex is holy and it should be learnt inside Marriage and not before Marriage or outside marriage but our world today has turned every thing upside down.
Life is about the choices we make each day and these choices will form our habit over time. A man who is not patient to wait for sex till marriage will never be faithful to you if he sees other hidden options. (even if he tries to cover up in Public). Marriage is painful and even as a man I cry when I see what Married men do or discuss in secret. Why did you promise her in the first place when you know it was just a fake promise. It is better to remain single and a virgin for life than to live with the wrong man or woman in a wicked cage of cry called Marriage. Aim to be successful or independent first so men do not take you for granted or feel you have no option than to accept. People rush into marriage but they don’t know what is inside.
Be a Virgin, not because you want to marry a virgin but because you choose to remain faithful even if others around you are unfaithful. God is always faithful. Virginity is your profile quality and you should be proud of it but don’t be too proud cause Virginity is not the only thing required for Marriage. Good Character, Humility, Kindness, Unconditional Love or True Love are also great qualities to look out for.
Marriage is about accepting people as they are (unconditional love). To love all the good and love all the bad inside a person with hope that your love will one day make the person change or become better. But if you don’t observe carefully before marriage, you may end up attaching yourself to a person with a very bad habit that you may never be able to change. Marriage is all about Team Work, to help each other become holy or virtuous, to help each other become successful.
If you are a Virgin till marriage (smile) cause you have done your own part of preparing yourself to keep that Promise of faithfulness that you will make in marriage and it will be easier for you to keep it than for someone who has no control for sex before marriage. If you a Virgin, don’t be afraid to wait for the person who will value you for who you are (your values of which Virginity is one) and not for what you are (your name or status in society) but if you think you can still help your partner to overcome their faults or bad habit acquired before marriage you can choose to go ahead with patience and love. It would be most ideal to be a Virgin and wait to marry a Virgin but if you don’t want to wait forever (cause it may or may not come) then its best to just train yourself to be faithful even if the other is unfaithful. Your conscience will always be clear cause you have kept your own part of the deal or promise.
Your Reward for faithfulness will come to you one day, if not in this life in the world to come. The God of faithfulness, The God of Virginity, The God of Nature will never forget you for taking care of Nature, for taking care of that Natural gift that he gave to you to keep for Marriage.